Three Truths about Typical Turkish Men

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The personality traits of a gentleman, smooth talker, romantic, and extreme flirt are all wrapped together to give you the typical Turkish man. At first encounter you will be charmed, wooed, and certainly enchanted by his “going-out-of-their-way” hospitality and attention. But be cautious. Some men have ulterior motives, and some will definitely get you into trouble.

When I first came to Turkey, I was given no warning about how typical Turkish men would act. I wondered if they would be anything like American men, the only type I knew, or if the culture would alter their personality completely. I had heard stories of getting lots of extra attention from men if you were naturally blonde or red-headed, but that seemed normal since those are very distinct foreign looks. Nonetheless, I had a rude awakening about the characteristics of typical Turkish men within the first month I lived in Turkey.

I didn’t date much in high school or at university, and I wasn’t given much attention by men. All of that was fine by me. I am a self-proclaimed bookworm and nerd to the core, so nothing could keep me from the gorgeous university libraries or research lounges. My experience with speaking or talking with guys all came from my two best male friends and my two big brothers–obviously nothing romantic or flirtatious there.

Furthermore, I thought that having tea or coffee with a new male friend would mean nothing because how could tea or coffee be anything but harmless?

Now, this type does not describe all Turkish men, because I have met some really great male friends while in Turkey. I’m also not trying to create a stereotype about typical Turkish men. These are simply my experiences in my small city outside of Istanbul. Not all of these traits or experiences are only a result of Turkish-ness. Some of the stories that I have heard have been due to women beginning the flirtation themselves, and some men have a view of all Western women as being the same as women in movies.

Three Truths about Typical Turkish Men
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That being said, here are three things I have learned about typical Turkish men:

1. Typical Turkish men are persistent.

If you are casually asked to have coffee or tea, and politely decline, that may stop them—for a few minutes. Even if you haven’t tried to give them extra attention, some take even simple eye contact, a small laugh at a joke, or just the fact that you are alive as an acceptance to their marriage proposal. If you say no to them once, they will ask again, or they will lie low until you notice them again.

To me this was so bizarre because in the States most men get anxious even asking a girl out (kudos to those who have the courage to take that risk). Once they’ve been shot down they don’t attempt again. The only way to deal with Turkish men’s persistence is to grin and bear it. Soon they will find another girl and/or you will begin dating someone, which will turn them away because…

2. Typical Turkish men are jealous.

This does not solely go for Turkish men; this is true for men and women here. Jealousy is part of their culture and a fact of life. If you are dating a Turkish man or woman, there are no other men or women that exist anymore. Now in America and in the UK, jealousy is a green monster that most people have a strong distaste for.

Here in Turkey, if you are not jealous of whom your partner speaks to, looks at, or hangs out with, it is the equivalent of raising a small flag that states, “I don’t love him/her.” It also doesn’t matter how many times you try and explain the cultural difference—they won’t change their minds. Because of this jealousy you have to be careful of who you hang out with because…

3. In Turkey, everyone talks.

If you have tea with a guy after a class and someone sees you together—and they most certainly will—within the hour your classmates, your school, and all of your friends will have found out. There have been instances where I have been walking around town and I ran into one of my students. We decided to chat for awhile, usually for them to practice English. By the end of the day I would be asked by either my boss or friends if there would be a date soon.

So what can you do? You continue to live life.

The attention is going to come, and you have to accept it. In the beginning you think you are royalty, but the best way to make sure you are safe is to use common sense. In Turkey there are different social norms that you have to follow. Here it is all about being continually conscious about what others are thinking, both if they see you alone with someone, or if a guy is asking you to hang out.

At the same time, typical Turkish men are not always to blame. My personality can, at times, seem very social or flirtatious because I am a bit sarcastic. Sometimes I come across as initiating, while really I’m just trying to be myself. Therefore, while a lot of the bad press about typical Turkish men centers around jealousy and persistence, it is a two way street—with a misunderstanding of both sides’ social norms and cultures.


About Haley Larkin

Haley LarkinHaley Larkin is currently teaching English in Turkey through LanguageCorps.

100 thoughts on “Three Truths about Typical Turkish Men

  1. July 9, 2018

    so guys, i had quite lots experience with turkish people, especially Turkish guy. so, i visited turkey for the first time in august 2017 and i found that turkish people are very warm, welcome, friendly to tourist, helpfull most of the time, and HANDSOME! OFC haha. so i went there to join a festival, and theres a another group participant too from another country. and every group got 2 tour leader from turkish, to help us or to explain everything in turkey, lucky me i got a handsome tour leader. so, i met this turkish guy, like i said hes very very very handsome, and also helpfull. in that time, i think i just met the most handsome guy ive ever met in my entire life. i spent 1 week there, hes being so generous, kind, helpfull all the time to us. and soon i realize i was crazy over him. and he was like just smiling or laughing everytime i asked for a picture together with him, since hes very good looking. so i asked a million picture with him together, he was like smiling laughing, very sweet. but then i had to go home, so sad:( i think i will never ever be able to meet him again after that since we live so far from each other. but after that festival, hes kinda arrogant and not answering my whatsapp, and just liking 2 of my instagram picture. i was so broken hearted, eventho i knew this thing wouldnt be gone too far, but i just feel sad and broken hearted, being away from him wouldnt be able to see him again, etc. but theeennn…. idk if its a fate or what, i got a chance to go back to turkey just FUCKING 4 MONTHS after my last visit so i went back there for my 2nd visit in january so it winter time, i mean like…. i felt so lucky in that time i think.
    and you know what will happen, i soon texted him that im going back to turkey again, maybe we can meet again for the last time etc, i still love and like him in that time. but yeah, he said he will moved to london etc and wasnt able to meet me in that time. i asked about the detail of his moving things to london, but he seems avoiding me. and this time i will spent 40 days in turkey, is that too impossible for him to met me just for 1 second??? huhh.. SO i got a conclusion that i cant meet him again after thousand miles i flew, but thats alright. because i have new mission of coming back to turkey for looking another guy, and moved on with. and you know what? my 2nd trip in turkey… I MET NOT ONLY JUST ONE GUY THAT LOVES ME, BUT MANYYY GUY LOVES ME HAHA. but not love in relationship way, they loved me as a friend, sister, and family. so after spent 40 days in turkey, i met lots handsome guy, even far far far waaayy better hotter more handsome than the first guy i was falling with. im so glad. im moved on. but i still wasnt able to tell the difference of when this guy like me as a family or he flirting with me. but i was so happy there, i received so much love everyday everytime… but then this issue comes back again. i like so many guy and even so hard to choose which one that my heart really like, since theyre very warm hearted, kind, HANDSOME, etc. and then in that group of guys that i like, theres this one guy i very very very very like and cant stop thinking about him all the time like legit, everytime i think about him. hes very nice, we did a lotsssss physical experience, like hugging, idk in turkey maybe hugging is like common thing. but for me it is very special, so we hug each other a lotssss. and for me this hug means different, everytime i hug him i feel it to my heart as i push my body to him, since hes very tall, my head will be in his chest, and i will always smell him, omg i cant describe it. and it happened almost everyday for 40 days. and he also kissed me on top of head on valentines day, and said “happy valentines day” omg!!!!!!!! he did all of those cute little things that made my heart confused like “is this thing common in turkey?? like having a boyfriend girlfriend relationship with just friend” ??so im just kinda let it flow, enjoyed every moment i spent in turkey with a lots of my friends… and then i had to go back home. at last night in turkey, i had to sleep in his place because something’s going on that time… so we just slept in the same room. i slept in his couch, and he slept in his bed. but because he had exams so he had to stay up late until like 3 am something. since i also cant eveennnnn sleep that time because i was waayyyy too nervous with him omg, like hes my crush, and now i will spent the night with him. so its very very awkward silence in the room. he did his homework stressfully, and i was just there laying tried to get some sleep but i cant, its was toooo awkward, nervous, but im too happy, i felt like im dreaming. hes sometimes sit next to me to smoke. we just did the things that couple usually did, even its way more sweet. and i ended up cant sleep until he finished his homework at 3 am, and i slept at 3.30 am. in the morning, i woke up i had to leave to catch the train to go back. then when i want to leave his room, he still sleep. i was just about to love, didnt want to disturb him at all. the he woke up and then we hug kinda long time, and me myself considered it as a goodbye hug, hes the man i love, like, and this is my last time seeing him, so i hug him sooooooo tiiighhtttttttt like omg i wanna cry :((((((((((((((((((((((((((:(((((:”””((((((((((((((. idk, i felt so warm and comfortable when i hug him. then i said goodbye but i keep coming back hug him tight again, and then in the end he said “if theres anything u need in istanbul, just text me” haha aahh so sweet. then i left. after i left not until an hour he text me about something, and then he said “i love you, sorry my disturbing” with love emoji. idk. isnt that too sweet right??? i really love him. and now its been like 6 months after, i text him sometimes, because i knew hes busy, very busy with everything. i knew how his daily routine is, hes very social able even maybe too hard to text somene. i sometime text him said i missed him, whats up like that he said hes busy and he missed me too. but he often left my text unread. but then he still like my instagram picture.
    hahahaha im sorry if my story was tooo long to read, and sorry my english wasnt that good, and also if u read all of my story, can u tell me whats should i do or what is this thing called? is there a hope for me? i really had issues with turkish guy 🙁 please huhu:( thanks

  2. cherry
    May 20, 2018

    What means of ” secular” and “Ataturk” , ? to know if they are good or bad turkish..

  3. Laraib
    April 8, 2018

    this was really helpful. glad to know these things

  4. shaz
    March 23, 2018

    well so i met my bf in turkey during the holiday with family he was half Turkish half Filipino born and raised in uk.
    so every thing was fine he was handsome and looked like a gentleman he said he will never ditch me and always be loyal.
    i moved because of him to turkey and i started to live here.after a month after i moved here his father became a problem for both of us then he passed away and i met all of his family including ex 4 wives of his father!!
    then we start to argue (usually i’m avoiding any arguments and i’m trying to understand,apologize and make things better ) but the arguments was over nothing like why i closed the lid tight or why i didn’t close the kitchen door properly .
    then one night over an argument he beat me and he even brought a knife and he threaten me that he’ll kill me!!
    after a week later he went to uk to work for 2 months.i’m sure he’s cheating over there and he made me to stay here,work and take care of his property.
    i wanna go back to my country or at least move to another city.
    my advice to you girls who dating a turkish guy is 1 among the 1000 might be good. they are all dominant,they are all extremely flirting with other girls in front of you and behind your back and doesn’t matter if they are religious or not they expect you to cook and clean and buy groceries because it’s your job as a women! doesn’t matter if you work all day out side and he doesn’t do anything still these are your duties!

  5. Tereza
    January 28, 2018

    Well I was married to a man from Turkey for three years, I’m American.
    He cheated on me within one year of our marriage and over the course of our marriage would seek out and flirt with many women on line.
    People talk about how their Turkish boyfriends/husbands would take care of them. Well we never had any children together, but I found him to be very selfish and didn’t really do much to help me out financially or was really there for me.

    If this is the norm for Turkish men, I am not impressed.

  6. Virginia
    January 14, 2018

    Please let me know more of it…

  7. Carole
    October 8, 2017

    Hi , just wondering. If any of you guys peak to clooney kadir !!

  8. Sezan
    October 6, 2017

    I am british and live in Turkey. A typical Turkish man is a gentleman and will treat his wife or gf like a princess if he loves her.
    Unfortunately most of the guys in the resorts are from the east and their mentality is very different to ours. Like the guy said earlier find a secular educated man from west side and you will have very few cultural issues.
    Yes they can be jealous and yes gender roles are a bit old fashioned but after years of being a working wife and mother i am the happiest i have ever been because my Turkish husband is wonderful and looks after me.
    Oh and i should mention i l?ved here for 6 years before i met my guy. True love can take a while to find be patient whereever you are and dont settle for bullshit xx

  9. Ömer K?l?ç
    October 5, 2017

    As a Turkish guy you should not convert your religion to Islam or something just because of your lover or anyone. Because in some Turkish families, religious tradition or something like that is so important. They will cover your hair even if you don’t want to. They will force you to do islamic things(if they are too religious). As i understand your boyfriend’s family are this kind of people. And this kind of people might see you as a breeding-sex machine who just have to clean the house and make food only. They won’t care much about you. So you should not make that mistake. Find a secular Turkish man next time,not religious one. Muslim religious people are not same with Christian ones.

    This comment for warning about some muslim families for you. Not all of Turks. Just like me. I am a secular person who cares about women,people etc. My point is ,there is only one or two thing you need to be careful. Just ask him, ”Are you secular?” and ” Do you like Ataturk?” If he say yes then he is a secular modern good guy. If he say no,then he might be shariah supporter or an islamic person who don’t give a f*ck about women or something 🙂

  10. Defne Can
    October 4, 2017

    Both of my parents are Turkish but I was born in the United States. I have travelled to Turkey a lot a speak the language fluently. I’ve only dated on Turkish man before. The relationship was very innocent so I have no experience with Turkish men in their early 20’s.

    I have an intimate graduate level Turkish reading class with 4 other students. Three of them are young (male) engineers who came from the same university abroad. They are best friends with a clear dynamic. The class is kind of a piece of cake for them as they are native speakers but I digress. It appears that the most handsome one of them has taken an interest in me or I am reading the signals totally wrong.

    It really does feel like he’s focusing his energy on me. There’s a lot of eye contact, smiling, and such. He’s in a room with his best friends and yet persistently does things that engage me like asking clarifying questions about statements I’ve made. Twice he’s looked straight at me while talking to the teacher about details in the reading that pertain to relationships. When asked what the author was feeling in the moment and throughout the piece he looked straight across the table at me and said “he wants a woman.” A week later the teacher describes a scenario in which this young man has a girlfriend and they’re struggling to stay together. Once again he look directly across the table saying “if I could get a girlfriend first.” We are several weeks into the course at this point and he sits next to me every class. There’s usually a lot of smiling and such in my general direction. The other day he asked me how late the banks are open on Saturdays (something that he could have easily googled on or possibly figured out in two years of living in the US). On the way out of class today he told me that the paper he wrote was so bad that a five year old could have written it and that I probably wouldn’t want to read it. Then he proceeded to ask me if he could ask me a question. “I’ve been thinking about this a fair amount, which one of your parents spoke the language because you don’t really have an accent when you speak? (this is honestly surprising to me because my mother always gave me a hard time and said I sounded like an American when speaking). He proceeded to explain that women do a better job of keeping a language alive in the family than men.

    I could be totally reading into it because he’s kind of cute. My friend says that an outside observer would likely say that there is chemistry but she has only heard my side of the story. Either way I keep replaying the scenes in my head and telling myself to stop smiling so darn much in class. It does at least feel a little like he’s trying to get my attention. His friends are totally stoic with no apparent interest in me. Oh who knows. Excuse the ramble.

    Do you think he is interested in me or just being friendly? What is the best way to approach this situation? He keeps asking me questions and I get all flustered because I definitely have a crush. I have yet to start a conversation with him. I would hate to scare him off and have an awkward rest of the semester. I’m not really sure about dating dynamics in Turkey. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks!

  11. Helen
    August 26, 2017

    I just met a Turkish man, he drives a yellow cabe. I havent seen him for a few weeks. All of the sudden I saw him due to a called a yellow cabe and it was him.So I said, hello to him, he said u remember me, I replied yes I remeber u.We started talking he told me if I wanted to talk more we could see each other. He ask me if I was single I said yes. But there is a age difference he is 46 yrs. old, I am 59 yrs old , but I told him I was 50 yrs old. He really thought I was 45yrs old, due to I look younger and good. But I have not dated him yet due to his cabe job. But he told me not to hesitate and call him if I need a ride, to call him and he will pick me up anywhere. By the way he was born in the united states and went to school here. I should I do, wait for his next move to take me out. I am a bit lonely need to date a man. He is very tall, medium built, light skin and dark hair and eyes. I seem to like him and would like to go out with him. I am puerto rican american and educated woman and Catholic.

  12. blonde girl
    August 8, 2017

    I’m coming back to this website, which I’ve been visiting these days cause I’ve also met a Turkish guy I was falling for. I met him on holidays, he was amazingly nice, respectful, good-looking and attentive. We were both on holidays, and I came back home before he did so he kept writing me everyday, sending pics, or his location. He even wrote me when he went back home. He’s been back for 2 days and yesterday night he didn’t write anything at all, so today I told him my intuition was telling me he was married. At first, he said “come on”, but then he acknowledged he was married, he added me on facebook, and I could see he also has a kid. He apologised for his behavior, and then told me he would like to continue…
    Look, I thank God or the odds, or whoever that nothing happened between me and him, except from a couple of hugs and kisses, because I would have felt so bad today. And believe me, he looked as the most innocent, best man on Earth and still he doesn’t seem to be bothered that he’s cheating on his wife.
    My advice is that if you want an adventure, Turkish men are great, they will make u feel the luckiest woman ever. But if you want a relationship, chances are you become the mistress, or the cheated on wife.
    Sorry about that. This is what I’ve learnt from my experience.

    BTW, this guy had nothing to do with the Turkish guys working on resorts. He was a well-educated, upper-middle class man.

  13. Sarah Sheridon
    August 4, 2017

    Where was his home town? Diyabakir not izmir i suspect.

  14. Beatrice
    July 29, 2017

    Hi, I need your advice girls! Do not know what to do or what to think, honestly. I am like a lost puppy. Me and my sister recently, about a month ago went on a holiday to one of the Turkish resorts. I met a guy who worked at the hotel. The first day he saw us, he was very polite, didn’t talk much because I was talking to others, but I could see he was clearly being observant. A day before we left, we spoke for quite a long period of time. I spent all day at the bar from 12:00am until 6:00am because my sister wasn’t feeling well, was scared to fall asleep so he was there because he was a barman. Some Turkish guys whilst I was staying at the bar approached and we started talking. Then I just zoomed out and started thinking about my sister and started playing with wooden sticks. I know its silly, but that is what makes me stay composed. Then when I lifted my head, he was intensely staring; he didnt even shift his eye contact, just kept on staring. Felt kind of intimidated, but then everyone I guessed had these moments. Just before I left, he asked me for my number, I did give it to him because he seemed like a descent guy. Straight from there I went to the seaside to swim (it was 2mins away). Next thing I come out of water, he was there. Not going to lie, never had that much attention so it slightly overwhelmed me. Then he asked if we could meet up after his work at the beach. I said to him, if he was looking for sex he better look elsewhere. Then he was like no, no etc. So I never did meet up for the hour, however he asked me nicely if at least we could meet up for 10 minutes, before my departure.I said fine because I knew we wouldn’t doing anything crazy. When I met him we spoke, and I asked why he is doing all of this, he barely knows me. Apparently he said that I was different, not like other women. I was like okay, this is crazy. Then before I left he said he will be waiting, kissed my hand and then me. Didnt think it would get there. Since I’ve been home, we have been talking every day, he sends me pictures of family, his friends, some of his friends already know about me. Im just in such situation where I do not know what to do, as I think I am falling for this guy. I’ve heard so many bad stories that I do not know whether he is being truthful, but deep at heart i do. He is also off to military next year, he said he will be contacting me and asked me whether I would wait. Girls, I need your opinions!!!
    Thank you in advance x

  15. Tracy
    March 11, 2017

    Where to start. I am an American. I lived in Germany for a few years with my family, my dad was in the Army. This is a true love story that still lingers to this day. I was 17 when I met him, this was back in 1985. My best friend Gigi and I were out one Saturday doing our usual “Girls just wanna have fun” shopping days. We were buying new outfits to wear that night to the club. We took a lunch break at Mc D’s, and that’s when I saw him. I started kicking Gigi under the table to look at that drop dead gorgeous guy. He was kind of short, black thick hair and eyebrows, big round dark eyes and darker skin and wearing a Mickey Mouse lifting a barbell tank top and jeans. He resembled Prince except for the clothes. Little did I know he had already seen me and after placing his order he made his way over to our table, that’s when Gigi was kicking me because she was facing his direction and watching him approach. He spoke in German not knowing I was American, but quickly changed to English. It was instant attraction. That’s where our story began. We dated for a year and he bought me a ring when he went to Turkey on vacation with his family. He introduced me to his parents shortly after we started dating and they tolerated our relationship as did my parents. His youngest sister was such a sweetheart, being about 8 when I met her. I only mention her because I profoundly changed her life and am so proud of her accomplishments and she taught me how to belly dance.
    Neither of our parents wanted us together because of our religion and race. We just wanted to be together…forever, that’s all. We were both 18 now and my dads tour was ending. That meant I had to go back to Texas. We didn’t break it off though. We wrote lots of letters back and forth and ran up a phone bill. I had to wait for three months to get a visa approved and a non military passport. In the meantime I worked three different jobs to try to make the time go by faster. Before I left, he made me promise to come back to marry him. I used alot of that money I made to buy a beautiful wedding gown and had it fitted and sent to Germany to his family home. The time finally came and against my parents wishes I got on a plane for Germany. Against his parents wishes, he picked me up from the airport and moved me into his bedroom. Crap hit the fan, but because he was the first son he got his way. His parents gave us their bedroom, it was very awkward. After a few weeks and his parents realizing I wasn’t leaving, they decided to make life very difficult for both he and I. Eventually his father said I had to move out because people in the building were talking badly about them letting an American girl live there and for not having more control over their son. I think when the wedding dress arrived is when they were really worried.
    I ended up getting in touch with a friend of mine who was in the Army. She lived off base and was going through a divorce. Her two young kids needed to be taken care of when they weren’t in school, so moving me in as her nanny worked out great for the the time being. Olcay’s father forbid him from seeing me, but that wasn’t going to happen. He just had his friends lie to his parents for him to cover where he was. This really restricted us though. Eventually his father found out somehow and threatened to disown him. That’s serious talk for that culture. We had to break up. I was devastated and fell into a deep depression and crying frenzy. The gal I lived with called Olcay and told him he had to come see me. He had shown up in time because I had taken alot of pills. I couldn’t live without him. We were 19 at this point. Our birthdays were only 7 days apart, mine being the first, June 5th.
    Our story does not end here, but I need to rest my brain. This is still just like yesterday to me..we will be 50 this year. I will finish this story if any of you girls are interested. There is a lesson to be learned here.

    • Ilayda
      March 21, 2017

      I would love to know the rest.

    • MelissaJ
      April 4, 2017

      Want to hear the story!!!

  16. kadirbl
    January 30, 2017

    Im turkish men !!

    • Lira
      February 8, 2017

      Hello !
      I’m currently dating a Türk for 9 months now , we met on some social app it was just a whimsical decision at first but then we decided to take it seriously.
      I would like to know more details on the matter of a Christian dating a Muslim since my father is a Priest and he obviously would not like the thought of me being converted to another religion , so is it REALLY necessary for me to be converted if i were to marry him ?
      thanks 🙂

      • Kay
        February 14, 2017

        Don’t quote me I am not a scholar. However, it’s my understanding that Muslim men may marry outside of their faith to women if the book aka Christian and Jewish women. I think one of the challenges that you will face would be if his family similar to yours perhaps wants him to marry within the faith. Hope that helps!


        • Lira
          February 17, 2017

          Sadly, yes indeed if by any chance , my father said i should encourage him to be converted as a Christian but i can see that it’s nearly impossible for me to do it ,as to his family they also would like it better if i were a türk and a muslim.

      • Lee
        February 17, 2017

        Watch your backs ladies …there are three things you can expect from Turks …to be conned, to get a disease and to be lied to o. I spent 25 years in a that community. .they have the nerve to call American and British women whores ..these guys are gigolo pigs and Love Rats! ….Watch Out!!! …Green Cards, Money and getting laid is their ONLY interest !! And before anyone calls me racist or sterotyping…I know what I talking about, almost every male in my ex’s home town came to America, lieing, using and abusing women for a Green Card when they have wives and children in Turkey, just to name a couple nasty things the y do. Watch your backs, they are lying , user , whores, don’t say you weren’t warned!!

      • Caring Angel
        March 12, 2017

        Nooo, don’t do it. You don’t have to convert for anything or him. He has to accept you as a Christian, that is, if he loves and cares for you, he will accept you as you ARE WITH YOUR RELIGION ALWAYS

      February 26, 2017

      Hello! Im krizzia
      And im engaged to a turkish man whom i beleieved who loved me with all his being ! And now this day in few hours he will arrive but i am totally worried if its all about flights thats why i kept myself busy reading about this article but anyways his the one who supports me coz he believed that a man should support his future wife and how surprisingly for 5months long distance relationship and im just his girlfriend and fiance and future wife haha but anyways he is very intelligent man ive ever known i never thought of all the type of man that im looking for, i would never expect that i will fall in love wit my boyfriend and now my future husband soon his too rush for marriage and wanted me to live in turkey but he still wants me to decide if i want to live somewhere else! I MUST SAY!! TRUKISH MAN ARE VERY HARDWORKING MEN WHEN IT COMES FOR FAMILY BUT IF YOU BREAK THEIR TRUST THEY WOULD NOT BE AS THE MAN YOU LOVED FOR SURE BUT I GUESS ALL MEN AND WOMEN DOES THAT ! i am certainly happy right now!!

      ***I just have questions if turkish men can be like other muslims that can have multiple wives???**

      Coz if that will do i dont know if i would be able to think normally if im not the only one wife of his life that could kill me

  17. Denise
    December 27, 2016

    I’m dating my boyfriend for almost 7 months he is Turkish. And take note he is so charming, lovely and very caring guy. He never let me feel alone or sad. He is always supporting and a very good guy to me, to my family and to my friends. He never let me pay bills and he is very generous. I can never say something against them, because he let me meet his friends and his family. Hopefully this coming 2017 I’ll go with him to visit Turkey. I’ve never been this happy through my past relationship. So girls we cannot judge them generally. It will really depend on the person if they’re sincere to you or willing to go beyond their comfortzone to meet yours. GoodLuck on searching your Dear one. Görü?ürüz

    • She
      December 27, 2016

      Your lucky Denise that you meet someone like him,,,,???
      I always adored people who found the love of their life.
      As for me,i have a boyfriend.he’s Turkish….I mean ex-boyfriend,coz we broke-up.but we still talk to each other.we broke up because first,hi’s family dont want me because im a Christian and He’s a Muslim.and the other thing is were to far from each other,he’s in Turkey and im here in the Philippines.but i really Love him so much,and so he did.
      Is changing my religion can help us?

      • Sara
        January 23, 2017

        Hello, She. I’m a Filipina and my husband is also Turkish. From my experience, Turkish Muslims have a strong hold on their religion and yes, you may have to convert to Islam in order for you to be with him. Also, they value the opinions and advice of their families more than anyone else. I was once a Christian too like you. So far, my husband’s family and relatives have been very hospitable and they welcomed me warmly when I went to visit their country. My husband is a very caring man and I would say I am lucky to have him in my life.

  18. Lorraine
    November 24, 2016

    I met someone from turkey through social media! I went to see him and he was charming but never has any money so I was expected to support him while I was there ! I didn’t mind meals but he moaned about his rent not being paid and having a crap phone ! That’s when I realised he literally seen me as a meal ticket .. We argued then he used to disappear of a night time ! I stayed at his apartment while on holiday and I was left alone most of the time ! I had my suspicions that maybe he had a wife or was even seeing someone else while I was there ! This disappearing trick done my head in so I packed my stuff and stayed at a hotel.. I got all of 5 mins to say goodbye to him because yet again he was elsewhere ! He broke my heart but I’m glad I saw the real person now.

    • Yusuf
      December 10, 2016

      It’s sad that he did that you, remember not all Turkish men are like that, you should not date a Turkish men from touristic cities, more in the normal cities, those men are more like conservative and don’t treat women like a dirt.
      I’m Turkish myself and I have a Japanese wife, I met her when she was touring in my country…
      She fell in love with me, so did I, but I’m very different from what here is described, I didn’t flirt, I just talked, according to her I was fun, serious and charming.
      But I never pestered her about becoming my lover, My intention was more to create foreign friends.
      But in the end we both fell in love.
      My advice and tip, don’t find love in big cities, try to find love in a normal cities.

      • Azreena Nor Azman
        January 7, 2017

        Salam yusuf, which part of Turkey that you mean ‘normal cities’. Mind to give some enlightenment? Thanks a lot and I am very happy that you and your wife is so in love with each other ??

  19. Connie
    October 19, 2016

    Well as for me, I met a guy few months ago through a social site. Everything went smooth sailing till we eventually met in person. He was so sweet, kind, caring and everything that could possibly make you head over heels for. After him going back to turkey, only did i know that he still talks to his ex. Things started to change after i confronted him about him still in contact with his ex. He didnt want me to interfere with their relation as it was already past. How can i not interfere when he still in contact with her? Cut the story short, things started to change after that. He wouldnt talk as much as he used to. I started to realize that he could have just seen me as a vacation lover.

    • Maia Sedat Cinar
      October 29, 2016

      Really sorry to hear about bad experiences with Turkish guy. But I think it’s also same with other guys in other country , all are depend on the person. I knew turkish man from online dating. He lives in UK for more than 35 years , and he has his own restaurant. He is divorced , has 2 boys who adult already ( 24 and 22 years old ). Only 30 days we had chatting , then he told me for visiting me in Indonesia and asked me to marry him. I said Yes! And then he came , he asked permission to my father for marrying me and the next day we were married in Islam way. Now we are still preparing the document for legal married in my country. He is very nice guy , caring , loving , romantic , religious and .. yup! little bit jealousy too 🙂 Even only 30 days I knew him via online but its like I knew him for years. Its easy for us to understand and respect each other. He brought me to visit his mom and family in Turkey too. Alhamdulillah … Ladies, not all men are bad same also like women , but u need to be careful and follow ur heart but dont be blind bcos of non sense love. Sometimes a woman will shut off her mind when her heart tell the truth. If u feel strange about a man u just knew , try to check on him. U can make ” fake account ” in social media to contact that man and see how his reaction. If he is nice and flirting with the woman in ur fake account , so just kick him out of ur life , no need explanation just leave him! We can do what a man does too 🙂 Use our logic mind dont be a fool bcos of man. Good luck with your Love! 🙂

  20. Lisa
    October 10, 2016

    OK so here is my story .. it’s a long one so please bare with me … I went on holiday 2 half years ago met a turkish man and started this long distance relationship.. I gave up everything straight away stopped going out with friends stop doing everything I did before I met him , but this happend without even thinking about it . I worked and lived for the times I would travel back to Turkey which was once every 3 months . He called me every morning he called me every night and text me all day everyday . I shared my life for 2 half years with him and I was satisfied and I was satisfied just loving him and working towards our future . He stopped me from using social media and controlled my life completely. I would go over to bodrum I was not allowed out alone . I was not allowed to go to the shop unless I told him . I was allowed to go to the beach for a few hours in the mornings and then he would send his friends to check on my every move . But through all this I was happy and I just understood he was jealous.. but in my heart I knew this was control. Sometimes I would disobey him and open my old facebook , but the truth was I would just open to look for him something in my heart was telling me to look . Last week I looked and I found what I was looking for a young Dutch girl had liked his picture on his friends facebook , I messaged her and from that point on my world fell apart, she had just come back from a 2 week stay in bodrum this left me heart broken she said they had been talking for 1 year . I asked him and he addmited it but said askim I love you and I have used this women for money . This ripped out your heart this man who I have loved for 2 half years is a giggalo ,male prostitute, I couldn’t belive it I’d given up everything for him all I could do was pray and ask allah to help me .. this girl carried on messaging me and messaging me it was just sending me crazy , I told her the truth and showed her the evidence she still sent him 3000 euro trying to win back love that wasn’t love and he begged me not to leave him , I asked him if he loved me he would leave the hotel go home to ankara and wait for me to come so we can talk face to face he did this I fly out in 25days not to save my relationship but to close a chapter in my life .. all I will say to you women who go abroad and meet turksih men or even you women who go down the club on a Saturday night all over the world… be careful with your heart .. be a strong women when it comes to giving your love .. if these men ask you for money don’t part with it .. you work hard for your money don’t give it away .. like he told her the car was broke his mother was ill .. iam in debt pay it off and I will get a visa to come to the Netherlands and marry you ….. he told me askim I did it for you .. I did it all for you … be careful lady’s OK protect your hearts xxxx

    • Lisa
      March 20, 2017

      Little update this girl he made pregnant after liying saying he never had sex with her now he says its not his baby so now we have a child who will be brought up without a father and a women who will struggle , what sort of man did i share my life with my dreams , hes a let down to himself , i went back to visit him in antalya he tried to win me back . Iam stronger and he knows he lost me and nothing will change that , this is my story and it still stabs my heart when i think about what ive been through i will never be able to trust a man , yes hes turkish and yes like he tells me i am a play boy . Hes from ankara works on the coast in the summer he told me this is how he pays his mums bills he exploits vunrable women its so wrong i just wont you women to be careful when your abroad not just in turkey anywhere maybe you might meet your prince charming maybe you might meet your worse nightmare

  21. Nancy
    September 30, 2016

    I have a turkey boyfriend and just meet him in social media. He added me. His sweet. But 1 thing confusing me is that i wanted to see him on video call even a seconds but he wouldn’t. He said ihave to trust him first before i see him and he wanted to marry me and go to turkey but how can I marry him if i only see him in pictures and chat. He wants me to work there and sending me 1 consultant friend if him to process my papers but i have to pay first the $350 but i refuse to send pay for the application. He still my boyfriend and everytime we chatted he is alwys reminding me to apply. And his always to marry him. What do you thik if this. Is this a scam. He keep on saying that I should trust him and follow him always. Please advise me and im beginning to love him. Its iur 1 month anniversary today

    • Sinead
      October 3, 2016

      Nancy it’s a scam and a very old one, please please please don’t send your money anywhere. I know you have feelings and we’re all only human with a heart but guard yourself. Love and marriage after one month? No proof of identity? There are millions of wonderful people in Turkey who would tell you the same thing, drop it like it’s hot. If you’d like to meet a really nice Turkish man maybe visit there and you’ll be surrounded by so many, you don’t need this nonsense online.

    • ali
      December 14, 2016

      i am a young turkish man. and i can just say dat. Dont send money not just turks no one. if i had a gf from another countries
      I would never ask money from her. Especially from a lady.

      • Katherine
        January 3, 2017

        I am talking to a Turkish man at the moment, he is sweet and very nice. How do I know if I can trust him? Or how do I know he is not using me?

    • Clo
      January 21, 2017

      Turn the page dear you, turn the page…let him go you deserve better than that…

    • Caring Angel
      March 12, 2017

      DONTTTT SEND HIM ANYTHING NO MONEY AT ALL. If he loves you, he will open up to you in camera and will notttt ask you for money. He has to prove he is not a fake and using you for money or for getting a visa to get a better life. Stand your ground

  22. Melissa McDonald
    September 19, 2016

    OK I’m English woman who is in Turkey now I’m actually feeling so sorry for Turkish men right now because as strong woman we have choice to make if you in there country you have to understand like any country your going to be looked at and charmed by men this goes for everywhere in world you need to know how to handle yourself and your own behavior regardless where you are yes I read full article and I’m sorry for woman who have had unhealthy experience with (men) but honestly you saying these traits are not in men from your own countries I think what I see so far I like don’t lose yourself in romance let him know from get go this is me except me I wish I had read more positive stories honestly only thing I don’t like being stared at but I have to except I’m British I look dress act talk different if someone in my home town was different I would look to out of curiosity I thing in every culture there is sleeze but you have to take time get to know people properly I struggle with bit language barrier but trying to learn as much as I can I think good/bad everywhere can’t brand all with same brush

  23. Sara
    September 9, 2016

    I need help! Can anyone respond to a question regarding this article?

    • Reynne
      September 29, 2016

      how make sure the your Turkish boyfriend is truth

  24. lena
    August 27, 2016

    im dating a turkey guy for 9 months now he was suppose to get a pension in february this year but some family member falsified his passport and got away with his money.

    Is there anyway i can find out if this is true because i really love him and would love to have him in my life, i met him on fb he seems to be very honest, i would like to know how he can work for 9 months and not get paid he said something about a stamp i have no idea what he means. all our correspondence is translated as he cannot speak english. thank you any information is apeciated.

    • Turkishgirl
      August 30, 2016

      he wants to tell you; He couldn’t get a visa for your county

      • October 28, 2016

        my turkish guy says he is very lonely and wants to come to live here with me and marry me, the problem is i hartly hear from him he used to contact me 4 times a day and he used to send me letters talking about him and his family i know he is divorced but i dont know why he said his wife got sick so he left her 5 years ago, he works very hard and tell me he is tired i think his friends has a lot to do with the way he changed ,he was suupose to get a pension in February 2016 he told me the brother of his mother falsefied his passport and got away with his money so he did not receive anything he also said as a business man he does not get paid for his work, i know he is verry poor and battles a lot, can i ask and trust you to help me see what is going on with this person, even if you could talk to him on my behalf i would apreciate it so much. many thanks Lena

    • November 21, 2016

      lena the thing about turkish boys is that there are shy, the way for them to approach girl is by saying that they will marry u. turkish men too love foreigners girls so much. i live in turkiye

  25. Corinne
    August 12, 2016

    Corinne No one is more controlling than a Turkish man. They are great in the beginning but after time they change. This is how they treat American or UK wives anyway, If they are dishonest they make many promises and tell many lies. If they are honest they just get irritated very easily and think they have the right to control how you are. You need to think like them and act like them.

    • Sara
      September 9, 2016

      Corinne, can I tell you what is happening with my new Turkish friend? I am not sure if I should say good-bye .

  26. Irem
    July 31, 2016

    Wow, I didn’t know you foreigners are interested on them this much. As a Turkish girl ,17, I can tell what real Turkish men seem and look like. First of all never trust the one you met on facebook or social media. Most of them are trying to get advantage from you. This isn’t just special for Turks. I think you shouldn’t date with anyone on social media. Are they jealous? Goddamn right they are. But in good way. I mean they become very cute when they are jealous. Secondly, they are very respectful and thoughtful. Especially if the case is about family or anyone they love. I am not sure about persistence, I think it depends on person. And a good thing about Turks is you can find any type of person you like; auburn, tawny, blonde, green eyes, blue eyes, brown eyes, tall person (average 1,77), short person and etc. Especially if you want European looking guys, search in Aegean, Marmara or Mediterranean. But if you are looking for someone who is darker you can look in Anatolia. But it doesn’t mean you cannot find whites in Anatolia. I am blonde and I am from Ankara for example and there are many whites there, anyway . I cannot say all these for all Turks. But yea generally this is how they are.

  27. Nurul
    July 13, 2016

    I Nurul from Malaysia. I was in love with turkish man before.I found that he was good enough for me.
    But unfortunately,something goes wrong and we separate almost 2 yrs now.
    Anyway,most of turkish men are charming;-)

    • July 21, 2016

      Hello . I am a filipina, and a mother of two. But I’m single now and never been married. I have met a Turkish on Facebook. He actually sent request and I accept him . and starting to get know each other. So far ,so good. We are chatting for almost 4months. And now were lovers already. He opened his life status ,and same way to mine. And we do video calling as much as we can. I’m a working mom and he’s also a very busy man doing his own business. And now,I can say I truly loved him. And he also said that he loves me very much. And hopefully we will meet next year here in Phil. He will go for a 1 week vacation .and I will leave for work too . I just want to have a happy life . and meet a right guy for me. I never lose hope seeking for my perfect husband . and hopefully next year will meet the man of my life.

      • Yusuf
        October 15, 2016

        Don’t date a guy from Facebook.
        If he ask money, just unfriend him, if he truly loves you, let him meet you up in Filipina or meet up somewhere…

        Oh by the way I’m a Turkish guy.

        Not all Turkish men are cheaters but on Facebook you can’t trust them fully.

      • Juliette
        November 26, 2016

        Becareful with them. That’s all I can say about Turkish men. Not all are bad but generally are. The Turk love a good time and trying many different of woman before they get married. They also like hard working woman who can make money so in the end they can relays on you. Just to let you know Turkish men most of are lazy. They like to flirt more than making money. Some are a great lier and user. And they often getting bored very quickly. They loves woman. More woman they can catch the more power they will feel. I also have to warn you …the Turks are suppose to marry Muslim. That’s what family only accept.

  28. Rachel Sara
    April 10, 2016

    I have a long time Turkish friend for almost 13 or 14 years now. It is true that Turkish men are hardworking and very dedicated, honest and loving. But sometimes they are possessive and controlling. Also a very jealous type of man but in a nice way, for them to show that they value and care for u. My friend is a good man not like the ones described in this blog. His name is ahmet.

  29. Anz
    April 3, 2016

    There are a lots of topic when it comes to good looking guys especially Turkish men . Im sorry to hear about the unfortunate experiences of some women who had a bad experience with the Turk guy. But for those Turkish men who were offended for being stereo typed by some women. Please be proud of yourselves. Most women like to be involved and be loved by Turkish men because of there good looks, romantic. & yeah i agree “so possesive” Well i must admit that im happy with my Turkish bf. One of the good traits about them is that they are hardworking and driven. They care about parents &siblings. They are very funny too. We are a member of the Long distance relationship but we managed to travel every 3 months. I can say i am lucky to have him. I??U Oktay!!!

  30. April 2, 2016

    Hello! I am a Filipino and from Philippines. I have a Turkish boyfriend he’s Possessive 🙂 but for his Possessiveness, I found out its kinda cute 🙂 sometimes we fight because he acts like a 5year are old kid throwing tantrums. I love him to death and more than anything in this world.

    • Estrellita Ico
      May 19, 2016

      Hello, I am a filipina from the Philippines..I have a relationship at present in a Turk guy. Yes, his possessive but his attitude bring me to love him very much because he showed me he really love me so much..I’m happy with him..actually he will marry me very soon! Thanks

  31. Regis Cartwright
    March 9, 2016

    Met this guy on Facebook, don’t know how he found me, but we have chatting since January, he seems to be really nice and caring he says lots of nice things to make me feel good. But he asked me for money and I am having thoughts about that. He says he love me and I find my self falling for him. He lives in America but is Turkish and I live in the Bahamas. He wants me to visit him.
    Please give me some advice.

    • Alper Kaan Boz
      March 27, 2016

      I am a turkish man. I have read many blogs about us. DO NOT SEND ANYONE MONEY. Please, I am begging you. I am 21 years old student and as far as I can tell, it is very dangerous to chat someone new on facebook or this kind of social media. Most of the bad experiences I have read on these blogs have share the common thing -an innocent girl starts to chat on Facebook or an innocent girl meets from lower-class lowbrow and of course as a results she gets bullied, beaten etc. by this stupid, ignorant man. Yes, I have read other bad experiences that occured even if the guy was well-educated but these are so rare. Firstly, you don’t exactly understand/ know the guy you are dating as we (people of turkey) do; this is normal, beacause, you are foreigners. We know/understand/detect a person just by looking his/her appearance if he is okay or not. (his hair style, attitude and wording etc.) In most of the cases you choose stupid, lower class people.

      Yes, in most cases we can be very controlling but when it comes to violence to women, except the exceptions, it is foreign people’s failure. I mean, yes, there are bad guys out there as much as other countries have and this wrong approach toward you is their mistake but it is also your failure. Don’t blame all nation just by looking at exceptions. Anyway, my main point is;


      Of course, since you are foreingers, we do not expect you to detect a troubled person by just by looking but we feel very sorry when we see a foreign girl gets bullied on the news. And you know what we say at that point. We ask each other, “what the hell are they doing with these stupid lowbrow? It is obvious that this man is troubled, look at that weirdo.” I did not go to other countries, so I don’t know your bars, entertainment venues but in Turkey, most of the guys you see in the bars are from lower-class and sex oriented idiots. Of course, there are some exceptions.

      I understand that there is no other choice left to meet a decent guy but to raise the chance about meeting a new proper guy, you should be visiting frequantly, so that you may encounter a decent, inoffensive guy who has a good carreer, good manner, romantic attitude.

      • Karina
        January 16, 2017

        Alper Kaan Boz,
        Thanks so much for your candid word of caution. You mentioned that you “know/understand/detect a person just by looking his/her appearance if he is okay or not. (his hair style, attitude and wording etc.)” It would be super helpful if you could give us such pointers so we too can identify the difference. I also am curious to know how much a Turkish man living in America would still fall under these “stereotypes” or if he is able/willing to not necessarily do a dramatic change, but perhaps mold a bit to the multicultural and diverse American life?

    • Sinead
      October 3, 2016

      My advice is don’t give your money, ever. Don’t be a target. It’s hard to tell the brutal truth to someone with romantic feelings, but I have no reason to type here to you other than normal human desire not to see a lady conned.

  32. Regis Cartwright
    March 9, 2016

    Is Scott a Turkish surname?

    • Berkay
      May 20, 2016

      Certainly not.

      Source: I’m Turkish.

    • Barbara Mowat
      August 28, 2016

      His name isn’t Franklin Scott is it?

  33. Just a guy with a.....
    February 10, 2016

    So, We the Turkish guys became big issue for all these foreign women 🙂
    Most common thing is the jealousy.
    Well, is there any male animal in this planed that is not jealous of his female partner!

    Every creature has its own nature. If you respect that nature and find the language to talk to that creature, you may have the best pleasure of your life. It is Just think it like owning a pet!

    You first have to decide, if you want a wolf or a dog?

    A dog is gonna be much easy to live, gonna be okay with every thing you do, regardless of if you are complete idiot, criminal, insane lunatic or a decent nice, balanced person etc. Dog will do what ever you want, will think that you are the best person in this planet, if you even abuse the dog! You do ot have the own the respect of a dog! Dog is gonna respect you no matter what!

    Wolf looks like a dog, % 99.99 DNA and look but complete different mind setup with different nature! Its independence, self-confidence, charm, protective instinct, intelligence and the hansom physical appearance gonna be much more tempting/seductive than a dog but it will not tolerate lack of self-confidence, imbalance etc. If you abuse him/her you will get a worst possible bite. Relation with a Wolf will require mutual respect, trust, sacrifice and knowledge about the nature of the wolf!

    So, you first have to decide, what you are and what you want, before you even make a decision about who is he and what he wants!

    jealousy is a wide-ranging expression. It may mean completely different thing to every single person, depends on their understanding!

    There is a jealousy like;
    If you go to a bar with your Turkish boyfriend and flirt with other guys in there, you are asking for trouble!
    If your ex boyfriend is keep commenting under every facebook pic. you upload and you keep answer back with lost of smile etc., you are asking for trouble!

    If you are gonna say “Ohh Honey, My friend and her boyfriend invited me for a dinner out and her boyfriend’ male friend will join us, I guess you will not come do you”!!! You ask for real trouble!

    Answer you are gonna get is” Of course honey, Just bring me my shotgun or get the F…out of here and never come back, before its too late! Or just jump down from the balcony and save me a great amount of time :))

    And there is an other type of jealousy like;

    “I don’t want you to work”! “Why”? “Because I don’t like it”
    Soon as you here that, You ran for your life, without looking back!

    “Why didn’t you called me, its been 6 hours since we last talked”!
    “Because I was busy at the office”!
    “Aren’t I important than your work”!
    Soon as you hear that, you also run for your life!

    “Honey Please don’t drink alcohol while we are with my parents”!
    “Because They are Muslim and don’t like it”! (Most of Turks Muslim or not, does drink alcohol or even they don’t, they still don’t mind other to drink it around)!
    Soon as you here this, run fur your life, never come back!!!

    It goes over and over. I hope these makes a little bit sense.

    Also because some one living in Turkey, ?t does not mean they are all Turkish! Many different ethnics in Turkey too, which makes a lot of difference about the individual!!!

    Tere will be a huge different between a guy from Aegean, Black Sea, Mediterranean (Turk) regions (Who has a ethnic back ground from these regions) and a guy comes from Central Anatolia (Turk) , Southeastern (Arab or kurd), Eastern Anatolia (Arab or kurd). Difference is more than two different nations! There is a huge difference between Turkish and Kurdish traditions and cultures! Only food has similarity!

    Even the look is different! Easiest way to separate is the look!

    Eastern (Kurdish, Arab etc ethnics) gonna more look like Greek, Armenian, Arab, Persian etc.

    From Aegean, Black Sea, Mediterranean regions gonna look more French, Italian etc. Wavy or straight, light or Dark Brown, Blonde etc hair, all eye colors, taller and more athletic built etc!

    I am not racist or any thing! This is what it is! Different eating, weather, living conditions and ethnic back ground makes a lot different in the different parts of Turkey. Especially the culture and tradition variance is gonna make a lot difference about the personality!

    Try to meet Turkish guys who been and/or lived out ide of Turkey and speaks a common language that you understand. May be much more satisfying than a average Turkish citizen guy or a guy from your home country!

    • Wendy
      February 24, 2016

      Oh u made me laugh do hard. U r too funny!:)

      • Wendy
        February 24, 2016

        *so* hard that is!

        • Carrie
          December 3, 2016

          Not really more prone prostate issues thinking that a replacement will be nicer. Do not trust Not all but many especially with foreign women they think they are all “sultans” once you get older…It’s all about them. They try to fake please you and make false promises, trust me I know. They lie and plot and are easily influenced by what they see on the internet as how cool they should be but some of them were nice people who somehow had some fantasy. Most women would think them weird, but they wished they were athletes very sad. These are personal problems that over time cannot be solved by a foreigner. It seems that non-religous Turkish women make a decision to go with the money and let their man cheat or forgive them. American woman are usually not that way however SOME fall for the BS so go with your gut! When your friend says wow this guy is so short and weird, someone you would never have gone out with (male and female) LISTEN…don’t waste your time o FALSE PROMISES. Plus if you break up with them or they with you over some fight that would be NOTHING IN USA – they will hold that against you if they are over 40 and pretend to be ” modern Turks” It’s all BS they all lie so good luck. False promises after 20 years. However once you marry them you don’t know what that means! They can be nice but most of them think they are Sultans from the Ottoman Empire. Best thing to do if you HAVE to HAVE this guy is suck up I guess and be with their program. Watch your back and even the upper echelon types are so full of BS so if you are used to faithful American men, look elsewhere unless you love control freaks….very sad and empty promises. If you lose your job you lose status and it’s a super bragging about your wife but if you look at the faces of these women they are miserable_:) for Turks here in the USA with higher eds EVEN after years…they are BS artists. They suck and even their sisters and daughters know not to marry a TURK

    • houda al
      houda al
      March 17, 2016

      jaleousy is a normal thing. all guys get jaleous, but because of the cultural influences, i think, guys jaleousy rate differs.

    • Celena collins
      July 9, 2016

      Your justifying obsessive behaviour, which is cultural, it does not make it correct.
      It’s also very hypocritical as the majority of Turkish men are screwing around or chasing others so perhaps this is why they are the way they are, they presume their partner may be up to the same.
      You suggest meeting Turkish men who have lived outside Turkey…. Hmmm? In my opinion they are worse, as they take all the attributes of the country they live in but still treat woman for the use off.
      They are persuasive, charming and hard workers but compulsive liars regarding relationships and money.
      You will struggle to find a Turkish man who has relocated outside Turkey and done it off his own back, it is always funded or heavily substituted financially by their partner and they are oh sooooo desperate to get married because you are the love of their life …..Right? …..wrong….your a ways to means.
      They fall in love with every woman they meet.
      The old saying fits this subject perfectly.
      You can take the man out of Turkey but you can’t take Turkey out the man.
      It’s cultural, they are brought up to use women and Turkish women accept it.
      They want the advantages of living outside Turkey and if you are bright enough to catch them screwing around and constantly chasing other women which they will deny whilst swearing on their mothers lives…. Good luck to you, he will never change.
      I had a lucky escape ?

  34. Lynn
    January 30, 2016

    Oh goodness… The reason I even came across your sight is because I started correspondance with a Turkish man overseas and this is describing what I am dealing with! I was so surprised that all my thoughts were summed up here! Not sure what to do… I mean we are so far but he is so blunt and I am not sure how to go about thing.

    • gel
      February 22, 2016

      Same situation im in.. I met him on dating im having second thoughts about him… I always caught him chatting with a lot of girls but whenever i confronted him about it he just says that he is bored and nothing serious is going on between him and the girls…

  35. Márti Meryem Yilmaz
    January 29, 2016

    Just laugh at these regulations. Turkey is a progressive ethos of modern, civilized Islamic country. Men and women are the same as in other countries. They are beautiful, smart, tradition and family, admirers, immediate, lovable. How do I know this? 23 months ago I live in Ankara, a Turkish man’s wife. I am Hungarian, was born Hungarian and Hungarian as I will die once. When my husband and I decided to get married, it had only one request: to move to the Muslim religion. Because I loved him and I did it for myself. When I came out 23 months ago, Ankara, immediately moved to a separate apartment, which his family is fully cleaned, washed everything. Ankara Çankaya one of the nicest districts, we moved here with my husband. My husband and his family have been adopted with great love, bestow their love to this day. A part of me kind of love is in gear as never before. My husband did not sway me, do not hinder nothing. The only thing different here than it was at home, in the dressing. I do not wear typical Muslim women’s clothes, or headscarf, only a dress that makes me comfortable, but down to the floor and covered my shoulders. However, this only Ankara must adhere to if we went on vacation to the beach, one among four, again come to the mini dress. If you can go into a major, but non-food store space and immediately offered a soft drink or tea. It was strange for me at home I was not accustomed to this. As it was strange that it was also give to another who barely have something to give, but what little he has is, will share with you. Since I live here, in no way suffered from a deficit, I am happy and balanced. I have friends, I travel a lot, and my husband’s family loves me. Overall, I can say that the best step in my life was when my husband and I fell in love and married. Are not all men and women are the same, but I have only good experienced here.

  36. Jessie
    January 23, 2016

    Hi there….i just started dating a Turkish man in the Caribbean. He is very sweet and attentive both in public (and with his friends) and alonem
    There is definitely a language barrier and we have had a few situtations as he misintreprets my words sometimes. My guy is Muslim which is a whole new world for me. Rarely drinks (that could be good for me as i am known to enjoy a cocktail or 5 and enjoys her bacon) I am a free spirited social Canadian butterfly. I dont wear underwear no biggie right!?? He was beside himself when he was caressing my lower back.
    Not too sure if that is a Turkish thing or Muslim thing. I sense maybe jealousy about me having guy friends. But i have heard of so called “Love Rats” So i delicately ask his plans about his future to stay or go back home to Turkey.
    Home is where his heart is.
    Definitely smitten.

  37. Malik
    January 14, 2016

    I don’t think you can make a general observation based on your negative experiences after all those men don’t know who you are and talking nonsense about turkish men is not your business.

  38. Tolga Onuk
    January 11, 2016

    I find it arrogant to say that “some turkish” men have alterior motives right in the beginning of the article. I am offended and find this article racist because not just “some turkish” men or women have ulterior motives but “some human beings” have ulterior motives. Thank you.

  39. Muuka
    January 9, 2016

    We are back together again. I love the man Firat Sekin. To the Moon and back. He is best thing that has ever happened to me.

  40. Lorraine
    January 8, 2016

    I have just met a Turkish man,I am English. He seems very respectful, up front with any questions I ask etc,seems to be the caring type and protective. Have met one other guy and he was very nice too. Decided they can’t be any worse than English men who are selfish, and most just want an extension of their mother, cook and clean etc. After reading the various comments I will however keep an open mind,I am independent and have my own mind-he may not like that!!!

  41. Risper Jennifer
    January 4, 2016

    I have a Turkish boyfriend i find him so protective but i still love him so much they are good guys

  42. Ezgi
    December 29, 2015

    I’ve met a lot of Turkish guys on the internet. And I found that most of them are horny. I’m not a Turkish, but I dated a Turkish since 5 years ago. He is a very nice guy but too protective I guess. And I’ve never found him cheating on me. I don’t know how long our relationship will last, but yeah I love him.

  43. Chris60
    December 16, 2015

    Turkish men are like all men: a mix of good and bad. Some are very caring and attentive while others may be sleazy and abusive. The good men are courteous and considerate while the players tend to be pushy and persistent in notching up one more conquest. Given the potential danger of being a single woman in a country where males can harass women the men tend to be protective of their women and walk close or chaperone you to keep you safe. This seemed weird yet understandable given the way that solitary women can be targetted. Turks tend to be communal rather than independent and if they welcome you to join their group they treat you very well and ensure that you are safe.

  44. Steph
    November 23, 2015

    oh!! 🙁 i was affected about what iv’e read now., because i have a Turkish boyfriend we’ve only meet @ the Social Networking site and he is so far away from me I’m Asian and he is a Turkish 🙁 we have a lot of differences in life from culture to nationality .

    But we still love each other even we don’t know each others language, we don’t understand sometimes xD and also where still have a strong relationship then

    Thanks to Google Translate :3

    • Y?lmaz Top
      December 25, 2015

      The things may not be the same in real life.

  45. Emilia
    November 14, 2015

    I currently have an online relationship with a Turkish guy. And the funny thing here is that even if its just (as of this time) an online relationship (LDR), the majority of the traits that’s been said here are all on him. 🙂

  46. Sabela
    November 7, 2015

    i also have a boyfriend ?but differently with yours?he treat me very well and love me.He care for me and would like spend money on me and when i need him?he never say no.But as the writer said ?very jealous and persistent.

  47. Charlotte
    October 28, 2015

    My current boyfriend is a Turk and is absolutely amazing. But reading articles on how Turkish men are scare me. I don’t know if he’s off doing that stuff because I live in the states and he lives there. We met through the intrax program when he came here to work. I’m so scared that he’s cheating on me with someone else now..

    • Adeira
      November 3, 2015

      I dislike Turkish men soo much now because of the things I’ve been reading and my own experience with a Turkish man. She is right! Don’t get caught up in their lies. I dated a Turkish man for a bit and he was very persistent when we met. I ignored him for several days before agreeing to go on a date. The date was amazing he swooped me off my feet and made me feel like THE most special girl in the world. He would send me so many sweet text showing that he really really liked me and would profess his love for me all the time. But the more I talked and spent time with him I realized that all he really wanted from me was SEX and to take advantage of me. I’m so happy I never broke my own values for him because he was with another girl the entire time. I found this is out because I’m a detective!!! He doesn’t know that I know so Im fired up! But things between us ended because I had to go away from where we live for several months and he wanted me to not see anyone while I was away he said he was going to do the same. But I told him that that wasn’t going to happen and I saw him one more time before I left and that was it. But I am sure that when Im back in town he’ll text me right away and I can’t way to PLAY his ass….. The Turkish man I was with is a PIG!!

      • Erx
        July 5, 2016

        Too many inconsistencies in ur story. Your a detective yet u can’t write properly? You found out but u never confronted him with such revelatory I information? Not even to question him in person, over phone or online? Come on…

        You sound like a 16 year old Greek or Armenian male/kid who has been brought up to hate Turks because of some wars a hundred years ago. Not buying it.

    • Adeira
      November 3, 2015

      Just be aware and cautious when dealing with Turkish mennn

  48. muuka
    October 21, 2015

    I dated Firat Sekin. He is a good man. We broke up because it is hard for him to forgive. I miss him all the time.

  49. Janice johnson
    October 16, 2015

    I had turkish boyfriend. At the begining he was nice and sweet. I loved him and I thought I will have a life together with him. But I found out that he was cheating on me with many woman and he also addicted to porn.

  50. Rochelle Wilson
    September 2, 2015

    I encountered a Turkish man which is my child’s father. He came here to work at the American embassy here in Jamaica, dated for several months until I found out i was pregnant, i told him and that’s when everything got loose he left the country and I never see him since. His name is behçet zorlu

    • mario
      October 25, 2015

      I can contact him if u want When I read your story I bcame very sad and I wanted to help uou

    • Jessie
      January 23, 2016

      Did you find him?

    • Erx
      July 5, 2016

      In turkey to do that to a child or women is one of the most dishonourable things you can do. In fact it infuriates me that anyone could do that to their pregnant partner & child.

      If anyone in turkey found out about that, especially the men, they would loose respect for him & tell him off big time.

    • Sara
      September 9, 2016

      I hope you are okay . I am so sorry this happened to you.

  51. Pauline
    August 11, 2015

    Thanks for this.It really helps a lot. Well I need to research about Turkish men attitudes because my boyfriend was a Turkish.

  52. Elia
    November 30, 2014

    If a man jealous its kind of cute. but if a women jealous its kinda world war III just begin

  53. Rose
    November 17, 2014

    I totally agree with you!! However . I think they use jealousy to be controlling..

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